Doubt.
Doubt is a writer’s most formidable and dangerous adversary.
It waits for the moment you are most vulnerable and strikes without mercy, leaving you
hurt and afraid.
So, what can you, as a writer, do to protect yourself
from doubt in a business that feeds doubt with long periods of waiting,
rejections and criticism?
Well, I’m glad you asked. Today I’m going to give you
a crash course in Self Defense Against Doubt.
I have been writing for eight years, so I have a
great deal of experience with doubt. I have also been studying Isshin-Ryu karate
for seven years. During my journey from white to black belt, I’ve learned several
ways to defend myself against attackers. Doubt is an attacker, so many of the
methods against a person intending to do you harm, may be used against doubt.
Self Defense Against Doubt Tips
In karate, the number one rule of self-defense is to
NOT put yourself in a position to be attacked. Attackers love areas that are
not well lit and where they can catch a victim alone. They also look for
victims, who do not carry themselves with confidence.
Doubt is the same. As writers, when we receive a particularly
harsh critique or rejection, or when the days of waiting for a response on a
submission stretch into weeks and months, we tend to mope. And when we mope, we
like to do so alone, curled up on the couch with an obscene amount of chocolate...ok, maybe that's just me, but you get the point. When we mope, we make ourselves the perfect target for doubt to strike.
TIP #1 : DON’T put yourself in harm’s way. Just as you shouldn’t walk to your car alone
at night in a poorly lit parking lot, you shouldn’t isolate yourself in a dark
room when you receive a rejection. First, put down the chocolate and get off the couch.
Get outside, go for a walk, soak up some
sun, get together with a friend, preferably one who understands the ups and
downs of writing. Do something so that you are not caught alone
with Doubt.
TIP #2
:
Keep your senses alert and don’t ignore your instincts. You know the warning signs
of doubt. The punch in the gut feeling of rejection, the whisperings of
uncertainty that grow louder as the days progress, the urge to consume your
weight in chocolate. Pay attention. Watch for hints that doubt is sneaking up
on you, and avoid it by referring back to the suggestions in Tip #1.
Tip #3: Use your voice!
When we teach self-defense at the dojo, we give students
an arsenal of effective weapons to use against an attacker. Of all of
the weapons, the most powerful weapon in self-defense is your VOICE.
Attackers do not want attention drawn to what they
are doing. Be loud! Scream so anyone and everyone around you can hear. The
karate shout is called a KIAI. You’ve probably heard it before in martial arts
movies and most likely mocked out the strange cries emanating from the actors’
lips as they fight.
In Isshin-Ryu karate, white-brown belts all use the same
kiai: Osu! (pronounced “Us”) When you earn your black belt, you choose your own
kiai. Mine is “Hi!,” which sounds friendly, but when screamed as I punch and
kick, it loses some of its warmth.
Despite its sometimes comical sound, the kiai has
very important purposes in self-defense.
I memorized the purposes of a kiai with the acronym P-SAFE. I know, kind of gross, but I have
two sons, and the acronym is nothing if not memorable.
When you kiai loudly during an attack, you do the
following:
1. Protect
the inner organs from harm by quickly exhaling and tightening the stomach
muscles.
2. Scare
off an attacker, who does not want attention drawn to the act
3. Adrenaline
rush. A strong kiai will force a surge of adrenaline through your body and psyche
you up for defense.
4. Focus
your mental and physical Energy
In self-defense against an attacker, we recommend a
kiai that will draw attention to the attack. Effective self-defense kiais are “No! Stop! Police! Help! and for kids, “You’re not my Mommy/Daddy!”
As a writer, you may effectively use a kiai with the
same results as P-SAFE. My personal kiai against writer’s doubt is “I AM a Writer!”
Pick a kiai that will pump you up and use your
VOICE! Shout your kiai at the top of your lungs and send doubt scurrying back
into the shadows.
TIP #4:
Figure
out your “Go-To Moves” against doubt.
As I stated earlier, in the dojo we teach students
a variety of ways to defend themselves in an attack including punches, kicks,
breaks, locks, holds, and sweeps. Though they learn a myriad of moves, we stress that they choose 2-3 moves that they feel will be most effective for them. I am partial
to elbows and knees. Others like palm heels and hirakens. Whatever moves are chosen, they need to be moves that can be executed
swiftly with little to no thought. They are “Go-To Moves.”
Personally, I keep an arsenal of the following 5 weapons/moves
in reach at all times while writing:
Go-to Move #1 - Copies of positive notes, emails, feedback I have
received about my writing.
Go-to Move #2 - Inspirational quotes. I love Disney quotes!
Go-to Move #3 - Visuals: plot diagrams, chapter breakdowns, SMART
goal charts of my work to remind myself that I can do this and have made
progress on the days when it feels I’m at a standstill.
Go-to Move #4 - Music! When doubt grabs hold, I pump up my
favorite inspirational songs, sing along at the top of my lungs and dance it
out or hit the heavy bag in my basement.
My Current “Go-To”
Playlist
I Lived - OneRepublic
The Fighter – Gym Class
Heroes w/ Ryan Tedder
Hall of Fame – The Script
w/ wil. i. am
One Step at a Time –
Jordin Sparks
It’s Time – Imagine Dragons
You're the Best - Joe Esposito
Go the Distance - from Hercules
Go-to Move #5 - Best friends and writing buddies phone numbers & emails
at my fingertips.
Use your “Go-To” moves in combinations. Hit Doubt
with a powerful 1-2 punch!
In addition to the above 4 tips, here are 10 “Mental
Self-Defense” Techniques written by the amazing Renshi James Snow for Fairport Karate Academy. They are techniques used in our dojo that may be applied to protecting
yourself against Doubt.
1. BREATHE:
Breathing helps connect the mind and the body, calming both and soliciting power.
Exhale tension, inhale power.
2. ATTITUDE:
Recognize its importance. If you say, “I can’t”, you won’t.
3. COURAGE:
Be courageous. It is human to be afraid, but you CAN control your fear. True
courage is not a matter of eliminating your fear, but doing what you know to be
right despite fear.
4. COMMITMENT:
Make a commitment to your goals. The Samurai burned their ships when they
attacked a distant foe, since knowing they could not turn back enhanced their commitment
to victory. (NOTE: This IS not the same as burning your bridges)
5. RESPECT:
Treat everyone with respect, including and especially yourself. While it may be
worth ignoring bad behavior from strangers, do not accept disrespect from
people you deal with frequently. Let them know such behavior will NOT be
tolerated and has a consequence.
6. FLEXIBILITY:
Be flexible. Emulate the willow that bends with the wind, but does not break.
Adapt and overcome.
7. STAND IN
BALANCE: Stay centered and focused on what is important to you. Do not let
others sucker you into losing your focus, and learn to deflect an attack by
disrupting an adversary’s physical or mental balance.
8. THE
BEGINNER’S MIND: From Zen, a term that masters give to the humble state of
always being open to learning new things.
9. BE
POSITIVE: If you exude positive energy, positive things will come to you.
10. RESOLUTION
WITHOUT FIGHTING: Reserve physical force as a last resort if in danger…you
or others. “To subdue the enemy without fighting is the highest skill.”
With these weapons now in your arsenal, the next time Doubt attacks, scream your self-defense kiai at the top of your lungs, and KICK Doubt’s sorry, cowardly BUTT!!!
And when Doubt has been beaten, get back to what you love to do, what you’re meant to do.
WRITE!
Photo from my Self Defense Against Doubt for Writers demo at RACWI talent show.